Get ready, because the maid of honor and bridesmaids are the ultimate wedding planning dream team. It’s your responsibility to take the lead in planning (and hosting) the bridal shower, bachelorette party, and other pre-wedding events. But before we dive in, let’s make sure we’re all on the same page with a little etiquette everyone should know. Let’s do this in style!
Be Mindful of Costs
Student loans, car loans, rent, utilities, and now your best friend’s wedding? Take a deep breath. You can plan a bridal shower that won’t break the bank and exceed all of your BFF’s expectations. Remember, it’s the thought and effort that count, not the price tag. Let’s celebrate without breaking the bank!
Consult with the Bride
No one knows more about the wedding than the bride, so before making any decisions, consult with her to understand her preferences and expectations for the shower. This will help you plan an event that aligns with her vision and caters to the guests.
Determine the Guest List
You’re not expected to invite all family, friends, and coworkers to a bridal shower, and no bride should expect you to. Set expectations ahead of time with the bride on the number of people you plan to invite, then work together to create a guest list that includes close friends, family members, and other important people in her life. Ensure the guest list is appropriate for the venue and your budget.
Choose the Venue
Select a venue that suits the theme and accommodates the number of guests. It could be a park, the beach, a rented event space, a restaurant, or even someone’s home.
Choose a Suitable Date and Time
Typically, bridal showers are held a few weeks to a couple of months before the wedding. Select a date and time that works well for the bride and confirm the venue.
Send Invitations
Design unique and personalized invitations that match the theme and send them out well in advance, preferably 4-6 weeks before the shower. Include all the necessary details such as the date, time, location, RSVP information, and any specific instructions or themes. It is appropriate to provide details for the bride’s registry.
Plan the Theme and Decorations
Consider the bride’s preferences and interests when choosing a theme for the shower. Coordinate the decorations, table settings, and favors. Keep things tasteful and in line with the bride’s style.
Food and Beverages
Consider the time of day and the preferences of the bride and guests when planning the menu. Whether it’s a sit-down meal, a buffet, or finger foods, ensure there are options for different dietary restrictions.
Organize Activities and Games
Plan some fun activities and games to keep the guests entertained. Choose fun and memorable bridal shower games that are inclusive, enjoyable, and appropriate for the group. Avoid games that may embarrass or make guests uncomfortable, especially the bride.
Gifts
It’s customary for the bride to open gifts at the shower. While she’s opening the gifts, the host is responsible for creating a list of what gifts were given by which guest so that the bride can send out thank you notes. Traditionally, the bows and ribbons are kept and crafted into a bouquet for the bride to use at the wedding rehearsal.
Thank You Notes
After the shower, the bride should send thank you notes to express her gratitude for the gifts and the guests’ presence. Encourage her to do so within a reasonable timeframe, ideally within two weeks.
Although the focus of a bridal shower is to celebrate the bride and create a joyful and memorable experience for everyone, it is the bride’s responsibility to ensure her guests are introduced properly, and everyone is acquainted. Afterwards, she is responsible for communicating her appreciation and that includes thanking you as well.
By following these guidelines, you can plan a bridal shower that is both memorable and stress-free, ensuring that the bride-to-be and her guests have an unforgettable time. Happy planning!